When Submission Starts

Posted by chuck maxwell on September 26th, 2009 filed in Chuck's blog

I recently had two college girls, both members of our church, come to me to let me know they were seriously dating a guy and would be going to church with him from now on. I did my best to bite my tongue in expressing disappointment, and thanked them for letting me know why they would not be around anymore. That was a mature thing to do. But it did make me wonder…At what point in a relationship does submission begin? And why didn’t they bring their boyfriend to our church? I’m sure these girls want to marry a guy that will be a spiritual leader. Which is another mature decision. And this is one way to let him express that and for them to observe that.  But it would seem that a mutual experience of each other’s church would help them see more about their ideas and understanding of biblical community. As well as help them continue to spiritually develop independently until a permanent commitment to each other is made. Is that sour grapes I smell? Maybe I should rejoice more in young women seeking to prepare for a biblical marriage.